Is there someone close to you that you would like to have a heart-to-heart with?
This last weekend, over the American Thanksgiving holiday, I had several remarkable conversations with family members who were visiting. These are people I have known a long time, close family. But, we don’t see each other face-to-face more than twice a year. We had the opportunity to talk, and we took it. It wasn’t that it was a big, heavy conversation. It was more that we spoke about what matters most to each of us, took the time to speak from the heart. For example, we talked about the quality of life we are experiencing, what’s going well for us and what is not so enjoyable. We talked about our personal views on a number of things that are often taboo: politics (and we definitely see things differently), religion and spirituality.
These larger conversations also led us into more personal territory where we had the chance to talk about what we were uncomfortable about in our lives, could not control and were adapting to. We talked about our successes and our challenges. And of course, at the end of all that, we laughed. It felt good to lift up and just enjoy each other’s company.
Life is uncertain. Nobody knows what’s coming next. It’s important to reach out and connect with those we are close to, find out how they are doing and share what we are going through. After all, life is a collaborative venture. The holidays are over and as I gear up for what’s next, I am comforted knowing that I had the chance to better get to know some people I care about.
Is there someone in your life you would like to get closer to? Take a risk. Check in. Ask them how they are doing, how they are really doing. Whatever they say, you will have opened a door that only you can open, but you both can walk through.
As far as playing jazz, no other art form, other than conversation, can give the satisfaction of spontaneous interaction.
– Stan Getz